It’s Sunday. I fill my room with plants, light a candle, put some atmospheric lighting on. There’s water by the side, a taperware with fruit in case I’m hungry, my computer, headphones and eyeshades. I’m ready. I’ve been considering this for a couple months and planning it the last couple of weeks. I faced some…

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I’m at a festival and the place is full of topless men. I enjoy the music a lot and I’m trying to let go and have fun with it. I keep getting distracted by these beautiful bodies. I see all these men around me savouring the attention, it feels as if they put all this…

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A warning about the content of this article: even if I don’t describe any events of sexual abuse, I talk about the discussions that took place when the Leaving Neverland Michael Jackson documentary was out. If you think you might find the content triggering, it’s totally okay to come back to it when you are…

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There’s some sort of story about me that seems to be manifesting pretty creatively in different contexts and quite often. There’s a lot I don’t know about it. For now the only thing that’s sure is that it keeps happening. It’s as if there’s a message I need to get which I don’t seem to…

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I don’t know how many times I’ve heard friends, relatives and acquaintances say that they think people overdo it with this whole consent thing – but they’re a lot. Every time I hear it part of my heart breaks. That’s partly because I have to explain again and again why I think this view is…

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Song Exploder has been one of my favourite podcasts lately. It’s about artists picking one of their songs and talking about the creative process behind it, from its perception to production. The first one I ever listened to was with Robyn, who talked about a song called Honey. This episode talks about how like probably…

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