I don’t know how many times I’ve heard friends, relatives and acquaintances say that they think people overdo it with this whole consent thing – but they’re a lot. Every time I hear it part of my heart breaks. That’s partly because I have to explain again and again why I think this view is…

Read More Consent: my thoughts on why we don’t want to do it, what it looks like and why it matters

Song Exploder has been one of my favourite podcasts lately. It’s about artists picking one of their songs and talking about the creative process behind it, from its perception to production. The first one I ever listened to was with Robyn, who talked about a song called Honey. This episode talks about how like probably…

Read More The career I could have had (honey)

I appreciate when I see someone showing vulnerability a lot. It makes me feel safe and more connected with them, and even parts of them I may be finding difficult start to make sense. It also makes me to want to get to know them better. But is it good for teachers, therapists and roles…

Read More How much vulnerability can therapists, teachers, mentors and leaders share with us?

It’s Sunday and I’m sitting in our garden, right outside our home, in my village in Greece. I have a whining dog next to me who’s constantly seeking attention. I just had lunch and I’m now having a coffee. I have my phone in my hands and the Kindle on the table. I’m wondering what…

Read More The things I do in my spare time

I’ve been taking writing a bit more seriously for about 3 months now. I have a few things written which I’m happy about, some of it I like more than others. I have a blog setup in an acceptable state. I’ve shown my stuff to a writer who’s become my mentor and they’ve been very…

Read More We’re good, they’re bad: the harm the gay scene does to us

I’m not very big on sex in public. It never really worked for me, I don’t get a kick out of the fear of getting caught as I’ve heard many men do. I get anxious instead, lose my hard-on and desire and want to leave. I’ve been however in an exploratory phase and it’s something…

Read More I’m not like the others: cruising and racism